It’s unpredictable to guess whether people remain friends with the exes or they let go off of all the connections they had with their former love. It depends on the approach a person chooses to live with. Traditionally, it’s hard for people to stick around their exes after breakup but other remain amiable even after an unfavorable ending to their relationship. If you think your partner is staying in contact with the exes or you are the one then there must be some secret reasons behind it.
How did you feel last time when you and your partner, at a dinner, bumped into your partner’s ex and it all seemed amicable in between them? It would have rooted some doubts in your heart that there might be still a connection between your partner and your partner’s former love. The thought makes you queasy inside to imagine that there might be still power exists in old flames. Would you react in a passive-aggressive way or you want to dive dig into the matter?
Generally, there is always a motive behind keeping a relationship with the lover in the past. Here we list down five secret motives to look out for if your partner is still in a cordial relationship with the past lovers.
1. Your partner is still interested in the advantages that were attached to the relationship.
Earlier, there were perks attached to the relationship and your partner can’t afford to lose them. Those perks can be related to money, friendship, or companionship, and can vary from relationship to relationship. You should look out for the advantage your partner is still interested to get from the past relationship.
2. Your partner dominates every situation and can’t take in loss of control.
People who dominate or control the parameters of the relationship can’t take in breakup easily especially, when they can’t maintain control. They are control freaks and they never let go off easily even if it puts their current relationship at stake. They will try to compensate by maintaining the relationship with their ex because they hate the idea of losing control of a situation.
3. People remain friends with the exes when they are unhappy in their current relationship.
It’s hard to admit to you directly but your partner is currently unhappy in a relationship with you. There is no plausible way to make your partner uncomfortable by making your current partner seeing you cozy up with your ex. Your partner might be taking an approach to putting you down and turning you off with the hopes that you’ll end things yourself.
4. Your partner is testing your limits of love.
Some people take an immature approach of testing their partners through jealousy and keeping ties with their exes. They test your limits with an experiment to know that what would be your reaction when you will see your partner being friendly with one of their past lover. This is their way to test that how much trouble they can get away with if you get to know that they are still connected with the ex.
5. They are being vindictive and want to destroy their exes completely.
You might not aware of it but your partner might have a vindictive plan against the exes to destroy their life completely. You cannot get to know a person living with you who is downright destructive until you become the victim. Be aware of your partner’s moves and the people your partner meet every day.