Relationship happiness, contentment, is the core factor to determine if couples would have a lasting relationship or not. Emotional work is considered another important factor to keep the bond strong in your relationship. Couples that last would ensure emotional work every day by keeping in check their emotional needs, seeking improvement in their well-being, and maintaining harmony. However, this has to be shared equally between both partners in a relationship. Usually, women carry out the emotional work most of time and this gender imbalance becomes the anomaly in a marriage.
Less emotional work from the male partner often creates psychological distress in female partner and if not taken care of then it will become the reason for the erosion of marriage. Further, it poses health risks and develops feelings of anger, sadness, or fear. When men share equal support in doing emotional work in a relationship, it contributes to a lasting relationship.
1. Shared goals
Challenges are part of life and part of your relationship, too. It will hinder your ability to work together from the moment you start your day to solving bigger problems like finance, health, family planning, social commitments, etc. The key to accomplish such challenges is your coordination with each other every single day.
Couples that last plan future together and to live in it with each other they have shared goals. Take your retirement plan as an example. You decide now whether you will take retirement early or will wait for the due time. Another shared goal would be the paying off of your debts and your savings. You have to cut your expenses to save for the future, for your child’s education, or even for a world tour together.
2. Open lines of communication
Communication is the source of trust for lasting relationship. It means you are willing to open up to your partner and you trust completely to share explicit details about your life and past.
It is also important that you listen to your partner and understand stressful emotions to prevent problems. Communication will help you to keep misunderstandings at bay in your relationship. It allows you to express your opinions while listening to your partner’s view point as well.
3. Create your special moment every day
Reliving all your moments in a day and reviewing stress moments or special moments is a successful practice most business leaders do for better work environment. A relationship needs to be nurtured in a favorable environment. Go back to that one moment which allows you to connect with your partner deeply, think about that private joke that you shared with your partner while watching a movie, or that intimate moment when your sense your partner’s tension and did a back rub. All these special moments will ease your path as a lasting couple.
4. Conscious commitment to stay together
The reason that you are still living with the same person is your conscious commitment to the one person you love the most in your life. You have chosen to stay with your partner despite your free will. You could have chosen anyone else but this person means everything in your life.
Think about the reason you want to stay with your partner. You need to bring awareness to the reasons for your decision to continue your relationship. Why do you want to be a lasting couple? The answers are all there, screaming in front of you, you need to understand the importance of many things that connect you and your partner for a blissful lasting relationship.